By Shradha Sinha – June 24, 2025
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Hello, my lovely readers. Well… these past couple of weeks did not go as planned.
Between a few unexpected turn of events and a streak of back-to-back illness that had me stuck in bed, I basically lived off electrolytes and sleep. Let’s just say, it wasn’t giving main character energy. But I’m doing much better now, and this blog post is one I’ve been meaning to write for a while.
Before we dive in, I want to take a moment to acknowledge that June is also Men’s Mental Health Awareness Month. This post is especially dedicated to all the men out there – the ones who’ve been told to stay strong, keep quiet, and carry on no matter what. You matter too. And your mental health deserves just as much care and support.
Today, we’re talking about something many of us experience but rarely name:
The slow, quiet feeling of losing ourselves.
The Boxes We’re Put Into (And the Ones We Put Ourselves In)
From a young age, many of us are conditioned to fit into roles – the high achiever, the good daughter, the golden boy, the overthinker, the strong one, the dramatic one, the one who always has it together. We wear these labels like name tags and slowly start mistaking them for our whole identity.
And while some of it might feel accurate at first, it becomes a problem when we start shrinking ourselves to fit into them. When our worth becomes attached to how well we play a certain role, we start losing touch with who we are beyond it.
We stop checking in with ourselves. We stop hearing our own voice. We stop being curious. And we start performing instead of living.
Losing Yourself Looks Like This…
- Always asking others what to do, even when deep down, you already know.
- Feeling guilty for choosing rest or joy over productivity.
- Being everything for everyone, but nothing for yourself.
- Constantly comparing your path to someone else’s.
- Saying yes just to be liked.
- Feeling disconnected from the things that once lit you up.
Sound familiar? Well… you’re not broken, you’re just buried.
So, How Do You Start Finding Yourself Again?
The truth is, this doesn’t require you to disappear into the mountains or go off-grid. It starts right here, with intention. If you’ve been with me for a while, you’ll know this is a word I use a lot here at Savvy Lifestyle 24. Intentional living is all about getting honest with yourself and making decisions that actually reflect who you are, and not just who the world expects you to be.
Here are a few ways to begin:
1. Be intentional about what you absorb
We live in an age of constant content: reels, advice, opinions, aesthetics, podcasts. Not everything that’s trending is meant for you.
Start filtering your feed. Pause before taking advice, even from people you love. Ask yourself: Does this align with who I am? Or is it just noise?
2. Be intentional about who influences you
Your energy is precious. And the people around you play a huge role in how you see yourself. Surround yourself with those who see you, not just the version of you they want. The ones who don’t make you feel like you’re too much or not enough.
3. Be intentional with the conversations you enter
Not every room deserves your presence. And not every opinion needs your response.
Choose the spaces and conversations that nurture you – where your voice is heard, not hijacked.
4. Be intentional with how you speak to yourself
This one might be the hardest, but it’s the most important. Notice your self-talk. Are you kind to yourself? Do you forgive yourself easily? The way you speak to yourself is the tone the world will echo back.
5. Rediscover who you are without the labels
Strip away the job title. The relationship status. The “role” you play in your family or friend group. Who are you then?
Start doing things without the need to perform or prove. Dance just because it feels good. Write even if no one reads it. Walk without tracking your steps.
That’s where the real “you” begins to surface again.
To the men reading this…
This message is for you too.
You don’t have to hold it all together. You don’t have to carry everything in silence. You’re not weak for needing rest, love, or reassurance. You’re human. And your feelings are valid.
Final Thoughts: You’re Not Lost, Just Redirecting
Losing yourself is not the end of the world, it’s just a reminder to come back home to yourself. To the version of you that isn’t performing or pleasing, but simply being. That’s the version we often forget, but always need.
So if you’ve been feeling a bit off lately, this is your reminder: You don’t have to figure it all out today. Just take one intentional step forward. That’s how we return to ourselves, one moment of awareness at a time.
And that’s a wrap ladies and gentlemen, but before you go, do let me know in the comments: what’s that one small thing you’re doing this week to reconnect with yourself? I’d love to hear from you. Also, share this post with someone who might need to hear this too.
Much love. I’ll see you in my next blog post.
Shradha Sinha, founder of SL 24, is a System & Process Specialist at Seven01 and an Emcee from Shillong, Meghalaya – India. Currently, she is enthusiastically exploring the world of digital creation. Through her platform, she warmly invites everyone to join her on this new journey of personal growth and discovery.
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